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So who are the mysterious people these nonmonogamous couples are sleeping with?
What would it mean to be in someone else's open relationship as a single woman?
Does it always mean wasting a limited amount of emotional and psychological bandwidth?In the open-relationship world, there's a term for this: "couple privilege." It was introduced to the lexicon by Franklin Veaux, coauthor, with Eve Rickert, of 2014's .They define it as "external social structures or internal assumptions that consciously or unconsciously place a couple at the center of a relationship hierarchy or grant special advantages to a couple." You can imagine how this plays out in practical terms.While "couple privilege" is a concept meant to be resisted by people trying to ethically navigate nonmonogamy, I also saw it as the larger macro lens through which the media reports on these relationships: always through the eyes of the couple, with a tinge of titillation (ethical cheating, sexy!) as well as anxiety (but what about the dying institution of marriage? It's an angle that only serves to reaffirm the preeminence of coupledom in American culture, not disrupt it.
Ivy was, for all intents and purposes, the "secondary." She was more curious than turned off: "I've always been one to question relationship paradigms, and I thought, well, the only way for me to really understand this is to try it," she says.