She kind of reminds me of you…” These come in handy when making that first phone call; you can even lead off with them as soon as she (or her voice mail) picks up.
“Hey $NICKNAME, I was on Google and it turns out that the band we were talking about was The Church…” Once again, these establish that the two of you had a connection and a conversation – you’re not just another random guy. You’re already at ease when you talk to them and because you’re friends, you presumably know enough about their day and their background that you don’t spend much time on formalities, and the usual 10 background questions.
Instead of putting yourself through the stress of an awkward call, schedule a specific time in the day when you’re planning to call her.
Then, some time between a half-hour to an hour in advance, you call someone you like talking to on the phone.
Which is why instead of treating that first phone call as some sort of date audition, you should assume that the two of you are friends already and treat her accordingly.
It’s the “fake it until you make it” principle and it works as well here as it does in the other areas of your life.
You don’t want to just be one of her many orbiters who’s always asking her out; you want to be someone whom she to seeing in person.
And if you’re dripping with flop-sweat and stammering nervously every time you have to pick up the phone to call a girl, you’re never going to be that guy.
anyway…” If you’re the sort of person who gets nervous talking to someone you like on the phone – whether it’s for the first time or the fortieth time – then the best thing you can do is warm up before hand. Just as you wouldn’t want to start running a 5k cold or to start pumping out reps on the bench press the minute you roll into the gym, you shouldn’t stress calling that new number without getting yourself into a more relaxed, easy-going headspace first.Following up on last week’s discussion on the power of texting, today we discuss how to master phone game.How you can handle yourself on the phone can make all of the difference between a number that goes nowhere and actually getting that date… You need to make the transition from the person she barely remembers giving her number to into the person that she can see in her everyday world.Just as assuming the body language of a confident person will make you feel more confident, acting as though you’re already friends with the girl you’re calling will help spur your own connection with her.By acting as if you’re friends already, you’ll be far more relaxed and comfortable talking to her – which comes across as “I am used to talking to women and likely have a number of them in my life”, triggering the pre-selection attraction switch.
Family, your best friend, other girls you’re seeing, platonic female friends…